You must have control of yourself and your life before you can offer that control to someone else.
You must understand and be able to articulate what you want and need before you can expect anyone to listen to your wants and needs.
You must be honest and open with yourself before you can expect anyone to share and be open and honest with you.
You must know what your limits are before you give control over pushing those limits to someone else.
You must never assume that someone else knows what is best for you. Only you know what is best for you, and if you don't you have to figure it out.
You must never trust anyone who says they know everything.
You must never give the only key, to your heart or to the handcuffs, to someone else... keep a spare... both hearts and handcuffs sometimes need to be unlocked.
Do you have a must... or a must not...??