Five Questions

1. How and how soon did you know you would be the dominant one in any relationship?
Well now, here is an interesting question to start with. I never thought about it until I started exploring things online. I have always been drawn to the kinkier side of sex when looking online or in magazines, or porn that Hubby would bring home. But until I tried my hand I didn’t realize that I liked to be offered the service, the giving, the submission of others in this way. I am happier when those who are with me offer this. It doesn’t have to be dramatic, but I suppose I never considered chivalry to be dead. I know there is a line between kindness and submission, but it has to start somewhere and, for me, it has to be offered from the heart.

2. Have you ever experienced been dominated? If so how did it feel?
Early on I joined an online chat group where I had been made a choice about what category I would be in and dominant seemed to be for me. But I thought perhaps I might explore the other side. I thought it might be good to try and step in those shoes as part of the learning process. So I created a second account with the screen name DaisyChained (which I still think is too cute). Within a half hour I realized it was not for me… at all. The first exchange had my shoulders up and my jaw clenched. Who the hell did this guy think he was?! But I also knew enough to know that personality is a huge part of it. So I gave it a day, and by the end… not just no, but Hell NO!

Now, that said, I can enjoy the physical exchange with my partners in real life that some would consider as me submitting. I can allow myself to be blindfolded, I love to talk dirty and having someone guide my actions with verbal stimulation can be very erotic. But that isn’t dominating me, but rather sharing a sensual experience with a partner I trust completely and when I offer that it is my choice and a gift I give. I am not giving up control, but rather exchanging passion.

3. Do you harbor any fantasies that you would not like to be realized?
No, I am eager to explore many possibilities in the erotic life. For that matter in vanilla, chocolate, and caramel life as well. Life is meant to be lived, and if something seems interesting enough to consider it a possibility, a fantasy, then I would like to give it a try. Now, that said, there are many things I do not fantasize about. But while I may not want to try something, or may not find it personally a turn on, I can most often find it beautiful that others do, assuming it is a consensual exchange. Recently I was a part of a real life scene that included needles and cutting. I was invited to observe closely the scene. Now this is something I never had any desire to try myself with a partner. But it was amazing to watch and to share their passion for it. It was Safe, Sane and Consensual and they were wonderful to share the experience with me. And it piqued my interest. Will I try? Depends on life and what it brings, but I try to never say never.

4. Apart from Blogs, what do you like to read?
I read a lot, I read a huge variety, I have piles and stacks and shelves of books all over my house. Classic literature, westerns, romance, sci-fi, erotica, contemporary fiction, memoir, biographies, poetry (I love poetry), I will read anything and everything. I love exchanging books too, a book recommended by a friend always goes to the top of the pile. About the only thing I don’t read a lot of is horror, only because I do tend to get absorbed into a book while I read and the tone of a tome can greatly effect my mood. So very depressing or scary can have a negative effect on me while I am reading. Though I will still read the dark stuff sometimes.

I also like magazines and have subscriptions to about a dozen different magazines, from National Geographic, Playboy, Sports Illustrated, The Sun and Better Homes & Gardens along with quite a few others. I also subscribe to several writing journals that offer short stories (love the art of a short story) and poetry.

5. What do you paint? (Apologies if you have posted your work. I have only recently found you.)
Thank you for asking. I wanted to learn to paint, always wanted to try watercolor as I always thought it was a beautiful medium. I took a one day en plain aire class and loved it. So I just tried and tried some more, read books, read and looked at lessons online, and just tried. Some times they work out, some times not. I paint anything right now as I am so still learning. Though I like landscapes, and nudes, and well... anything.

I also got involved in sharing my art with ATC (artist trading cards) which are little miniature paintings 2 ½ X 3 ½, the size of baseball cards. I was a member on a site where you would post a scan of your art and others would offer to trade you their art. My little bits of creativity now live all over the world and I have a lovely small box of their original art in exchange.

I tend to jump into things with both feet and learn how to swim once I am in the water.



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