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Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Why Do It?

One of the topics of discussion at Fetlife.com today was this question below that I thought was so simple, yet offers so much room for self exploration. I wrote this response this morning and wanted to share it here as I would love to know your answer as well. So please... tell me...

What is the attraction of BDSM for you? Why is it that you do what you do? What drives you to try it and keep doing it? What do you get out of it?
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My answers...

Why paint a watercolor picture?
Because I am good at it and it brings me pleasure to create and to express myself and those I share with pleasure and the ability to share in my creativity.

Why read a good book?
Because I am interested in what I can learn, what I can be entertained by, what will fill me up with pleasure.

Why strap little boards to my feet and go hurdling down a mountain?
Because it is thrilling, exhilarating. I makes me feel alive and in control and out of control all at the same time. It makes me stop worrying about the everyday issues and just makes my heart beat faster.

Why climb a mountain?
Because it is there, because it is a challenge that attracts me and makes me feel good about who I am and what I can offer to the world.

The answers to all these personal and me specific questions can be substituted for the answers to the questions above. I am not trying to be flip or trite here, merely sharing that dominating in a BDSM way is a part of me and what I desire. As are many things I enjoy in my life.

I could probably expand this list 10 fold. Being a dominant is part of who I am.

So I will ask you again... Why do you?

Honey

4 comments:

Dimas089 said...

Its who i am. Its a part of myself. and thats simple enough. what i get out of i is a fufillment of a deep need that i feel inside of msyelf.

Vixen said...

For me it is the giving of myself. As a submissive who is learning she has a bit of a dominate streak it allows me to give in both sides of my life. For me the reason why is simple. There is nothing like seeing the pleasure in someone else’s eyes when you give them what they need, crave or desire be they submissive or dominate. What drives me well….that Miss Honey is hard to explain because at times I truly have no idea. Right off the top of my head I would say because it is something I need to do. I tend to need it like we need air to breath. I had mentioned the questions to a submissive friend of mine from my area and she said something that I really hadn’t thought about but now I can see what she meant. Freedom, that’s what I get out of it. Freedom to be unashamed of who and what I am, of course a nice feeling of satisfaction knowing that I have made someone happy works to.
Love you much Miss Honey
vixen

acker said...

Dear Miss Honey,

My first sexual fantasies were about submission, my experiments were with, what I later became to know as, BDSM.. so it is so much part of me.. I cannot think about me without it...

acker

Lady Sascha said...

I have dabbled in D&s since My late teens. I have been both a sub and a Domme. I've tried My hand at vanilla relationships, but they don't ever seem to have the thrill a D&s relationship does..
For Me, this sort of relationship forces a deeper and more spiritual type of communication - we are not just "fucking" like animals in heat, we are communicating what we both need to make our times together an erotic and fulfilling adventure.
Sascha